Are you affected by change? Notice that your intimacy skills are challenged when you are dealing with change affecting your life (e.g., children switching school, a new job, returning from vacation, getting ready for -or exiting- the holidays)?
As you are reading this, I can see that you are already a Master in dealing with change. You ask me how I know that you are a Master? I know because you ran a search and looked up this program (or someone did for you). And with your response you show me that you are ready to not just master what you are facing but to excel and become an Expert when dealing with change!
The following message is for you:
The Leadership Practice’ Conquer Change program gives you 5 modules of downloadable videos, audio files, and cheat sheets with strategies so that you (1) have a road map HOW to deal with a change that you are facing, (2) have peace of mind despite of the uncertainty common with change, and (3) have the capacity to maintain desired behaviors long-term (e.g., by overcoming procrastination and perfectionism, to name two big reasons why we have such a hard time with maintaining what we want to maintain.)
Only Masters look for ways to create more leverage in their lives when they are dealing with change. So I will not have to convince you:
That expanding your tools to deal with change is the key tipping point that will allow you to optimize your capacities to have meaningful relationships, focus on what you want to focus, leverage your time, and optimize your sense of calm and well-being.
But where do you start!?
Perhaps in your most courageous moments you’ve made the commitment to start improving your intimacy skills. You may be a person who jots down ideas to pursue, your next goal to tackle, a to-do list to get the job done. If you’re super committed, but even with the best intentions, most people who set themselves goals to change end up abandoning the change they embarked on. But does this approach work when it comes to your intimacy skills- those skills to guide yourself so that you can give and create meaningful relationships?
Unsure about how you are doing with guiding yourself and your loved ones? Take the self-leadership assessment to find out where you are at with regards to your capacity for guiding yourself and your significant other into greater intimacy:
Here’s why most people abandon their goal to increase their capacity for intimacy:
- Without a clear, step-by-step project plan how to increase their intimacy skills, they get completely lost.
- They fall victim to paralyzing tech hangups (another relationship app to download, another time consuming activity to check out), r lack of clarity over exactly what they need to do next to improve their coping with change.
Here’s why this is so crippling:
As an already busy person with people to attend to, services to fulfill, and maybe even a day job to get to, you literally can’t afford to veer off course to improve your coping with change. And the moment you get lost in your feelings of being overwhelmed, it feels almost impossible to recover.
Even if you’re late to the party, there’s still a golden opportunity for you to jump in, gain clarity, add on vital tools and leave behind confusion, uncertainty, and setbacks. That is… you can learn to
is… you can learn to avoid the same old same old mistakes that you used to make, for example, not treating the development of your skill set and coping mechanisms like a project worth to pursue:
1. Building a successful set of coping isn’t particularly hard or complicated. But there are MANY moving pieces and potential roadblocks along the way. They could sound like this:
- Where do I begin?
- What are the patterns that want to throw me off course?
- What can I do instead to overcome old patterns and feelings?
- What do I need to do to cope better with change that comes my way?
- Why do I feel paralyzed when “good” change is coming my way?
2. Most people approach developing their coping skills as just another “thing there is or is not”. But the thing is, you can’t treat the development of your coping skills as just another “strategy”, “tactic” or “system”. It’s an immensely valuable (and fragile) asset that when done right, can earn you great gains over the course of it’s lifetime.
3. Time to respect it for what it is – a PROCESS to embark on – and approach it accordingly. The key ingredient to your success in all of this is a course that empowers you to conquer change.
And with your permission, that’s what I’d LOVE to invite you to join: Check out the Conquer Change Program.
Sibylle Georgianna, Ph.D.,